When are you an adult?

The question for the day is when are you an adult? I have this person that somewhat confuses me. I work in the same building as this person and she has always been nice to me. A couple of years ago my former husband and myself choined this social club and I found out later that this person that works in my building was also a member. Like I said, she has always been nice to me and I have never had anything bad to say about her. My divorce will be 2 in March and just recently this person from work has been giving me the cold shoulder.

I don't understand it! My former husband is still a member their and I know that he is dating someone from there also, but I have never asked the person from my work about the club, anyone in the club or anything that goes on out there. So why all of a sudden the cold shoulder? this person is married, so I know she is not the one the that is my ex is dating. I can understand it if she feels like talking to me is a betrayal of her friendship with my ex.....if they are even friends....that I don't know. Like I said, I don't ask. I don't see to many people that are friends of his simply because I don't hang out in the places that they do and when I do run into his friends, I am nice and say hello, maybe ask them how they are doing, but I don't pump them for information.

One, it's none of my business about how he is living his life and two, that would be putting them smack into the middle of something that they don't belong in. It has been hard for me to move on with my life since the divorce so I don't pump people for information about him on purpose. I consider myself a reasonably intelligent person who can hold my own in a conversation about topics other than my ex husband.

Is it too much to ask that people just maintain a certain level of civility? When do people start acting like adults and treat other people with respect? Since when does a divorce mean that people cannot be cordial or even nice to others?